RaiseIII wrote:
Simply because, it indicates a clear lack of care about the LS and the event, and they are trying to milk their AFK time as long as possible; Most likely they are doing something else at the PC or watching TV or something instead of committing their time to the LS like they should be.
In-joke: I believe that's OK as long as it's Goonies they're watching.
Then there are the occasions when you can't kick someone, even though the situation deserves it, because you can't figure out for certain who you would kick.
I run an Assault linkshell. Generally it's low key and pretty easy to handle. We don't have compulsory attendance, all we ask is that if you sign up for a run, you turn up. We don't care if you're off doing an exp party that night, as long as you didn't promise to be at our run by signing up. We also expect people to come well prepared, having read the strategy and knowing what to expect. Once in a while someone doesn't, I take names, sigh, and explain it in chat. As long as they don't make a habit of it, once is not a big deal.
Generally people do what's asked of them and are relaxed and competent. Hard to imagine an easier LS to run in terms of avoiding drama, eh?
But then, one night, we had a meltdown. We were running an FL party that night, and unusually I didn't assign myself to it. We had a PLD/NIN available who is a better tank than I am (I have only /WAR and /RDM), and I believed the job mix for a win was more likely to succeed with people other than me. So I put the LS first, assigned myself to help out lower rank clears, and I gave the FL lead to the person who I (still) believe was best at the task.
About the time I came out of the first round runs, I started getting /tells from the FL party. In their pre-entry strategy talk, someone made a remark, someone else reacted, and everyone in the party was involved in a /tell argument, /party argument, or sitting back in horror at what was going on. Without going into details, well... I'll let you imagine it.
Only way to salvage the run that evening was cancel that FL party and make the rest of the runs for the other attendees. I made sure to get a full account from everyone involved -- I'd later PM some people I couldn't talk to thoroughly at the time -- and would investigate the whole thing.
So far sounds simple enough: kick the troublemaker(s). But in the end, I assigned no penalty at all.
Here's the thing: I got 6 accounts of the incident. Normally you'd expect 6 different versions, but that's not what I got. Everyone -- everyone -- agreed on exactly what happened, in what order, and what was said pretty much down to the exact words. But if I sat back and didn't play favorites, I could not honestly tell who was to blame. The remark that started it could have been an innocent remark, or it could have been taken as a personal insult. I was pretty sure it wasn't a personal insult, but then again, I couldn't blame the target either for reacting as if it was. And from then on, everyone did what from their point of view I had to admit was reasonable, but taken together boiled up into an explosion of drama.
If I'd have played favorites -- as maybe I was expected to do, I don't know -- it would have been easy: I'd have kicked the more recent LS members in favor of the long-term ones, and no-one on either side of the argument would have blamed me and some would have no doubt cheered. But I don't play favorites. And I had an exact picture of events, and try as I might I could not assign blame. Individually, from their justifiable perspective, people acted reasonably (if not tactfully) and I can't kick someone for being reasonable.
So what do you do under those circumstances? Betray your principles and keep the long-time members happy? "Kill everyone and let God sort them out" by kicking them all? Or what I did, kick no-one, acknowledge it sucked for everyone, and try to move on? As I said at the time:
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Is that enough? Probably not, for some of that FL party. I am truly sorry about that, because I consider those very people to be good friends. But my LS-leader hat is on here, and when that's on my head I don't compromise my principles. I tried to determine the facts, and oddly enough, not one single one of the accounts contradicted another. The objective parts of the accounts agreed completely. From those facts I had, I did not see enough conclusive assignment of blame to justify breaking a pearl.
So what do you all do with the grey areas?
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ecator wrote:
At level 75 every Dragoon is potentially "made of earth-shattering pwn," Luc. I only qualify that with "potentially" because of the ones who are still using a Dreizack and AF gloves in merit parties. You know the ones I'm talking about. Those are the ones who sold their pwn for crack money.
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